Dear Friends,
I understand the problem of fear of Public Speaking, I had the same fear in my past. Reading the articles, Tips and Books will not help to overcome from the Problem of Public Speaking Fear, Stage Fright and to Overcome nervouness. to resolve this phobia, what require is practicle Training. I will suggest you the Best Short term Course (4 Days) which is available in Mumbai. I have personally Attended & Benefited, Also Many Individuals, Corporates, Professionals, Students Experienced & Benefited from this course.
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Regards,

Jameer

Let me first start off by saying Happy New Year.

And once you have read to the end of this, you will realise that it might indeed be ‘happy’. Just a sentence on my background, big business, investment banker, later turned NLP trainer. I have trained with 4 of the BEST NLP trainers in the world including Dr Bandler and still continue to do so with his apprentice here in London. My corporate fees are roughly £5k / day for this type of work, and I only mention this to gain some credibility from you the reader. Believe me when I say I have helped hundreds of people overcome their fear. And not in years, for many it was circa 6 hours (2 sessions of 3 hrs. ) One of the most amazing things that I learnt from the best NLP MASTER TRAINERS, is that they charge by the change instead of hourly. Therefore it is in my interest that my client not only gets better but better quickly.

It’s 6am here in London and I have been up all night wiritng another article for a poker magazine. I stumbled on this site by accident and in truth would have kept browsing, except when I saw how many views certain threads were getting. It tugged at the ole heart strings, and for the 13,000 people who viewed the last post – this post is for you ALL.

Let me start by saying ‘ I hear ya’, ‘I know.’ You are not alone. A phobia, can be very restrictive and very uncomfortable. The genesis of it could truly be anything, but the affects of a phobia, and the stress that ensues from it, can truly be too much. You all know that. Many of you had dedicated thousands of words to the effects a phobia has on you. Shakey hands, sweaty, nervous, etc….

‘I hear ya’, ‘I know’. For the reason in the first paragraph I have really not had the time to read every message on every post. So let me first tell, you that you are not alone, and even though that makes no difference to your current predicament – know that you are no freak. Public speaking phobias are considered by many as the no.1 phobia in the world. Yet how does that help you ?? It doesn’t.

Given the time in the morning and the strict posting guidelines, I will be careful in what I say. But know this! It’s very easy to work with someone and have phobias go away. I am not necessarily that NLP is the only thing to work because even in that field, not every NLPer may posses the skill set to cure it, but it’s a start. My history of ex public speaking phobics, has spoken wonders, and for me it was a huge pleasure to see an ex-client of mine presenting an award on a televised show. Just a week before that, she had had a phobia of public speaking. I have an excellent contact network, and should you wish to contact me looking for someone in your area, I could probably help.

There are a few things that I would like to advice you of. Despite whatever anyone says, and despite how many certificates they have on their wall, if you are being told that your phobia is not real, reach over for something heavy and smack that mental professional in the face. The body’s reaction to a phobia is very real, and when tested, would test very similar or even higher that extreme stress. If anyone out there tries to force you onto a stage, smack them. If they try and get you to relax, and you don’t feel relaxed, smack them. People will always try and help, it’s just if they don’t know how the brain works, then their advice is going to be futile. Theory and futile advice may make the person sound intelligent, but if it doesn’t get you on the stage, where you feel comfortable and even forget you had a phobia, then smack them.

Again in my opinion hypnosis on its own does not work with this. I’ve found that it is necessary to change people’s internal images and sounds (NLP) as well as hypnosis, so that not only does the work stick, but newer cortical pathways are built. With regards to how long should it take, and how much will it cost – I couldn’t tell you. I know that for me it has taken anywhere between 30 minutes – 3 x 3hr sessions. I am pretty relentless and once my clients has realised that I am not giving up and am in part more crazy then they are – then they are pretty damn rapid at changing.

It does not matter to me if a client has had a phobia for 25 years. They come and cry, and tell me all the things, they’ve tried, and bring me files and case notes – and my response is the same : “I don’t give a shit”

I look my client dead in the eye and ask them
“any of this stuff you are telling me, has it got rid of your phobia”

They usually then look at me quite embarrassed and say
“no”

My response is usually the same
“good. so now you have a list of ALL the ways that DON’T work. Let’s do it my way”

and before long, some good humour, some good NLP and some great conversational hypnosis, and they are back on track. I believe in freedom, and phobias just restrict people. it restricts people’s thinking, and their actions, and that to me is not a freer life.

So guys, I hope you believe me when I say ‘ I hear ya,’ ‘I know’. But no sympathy from me. You just have to find the right person to work with to get rid of it. The question of whether it can go or not should no longer be in your mind – it should be replaced with – how fast can I get help to get rid of this.

So here I am, it’s early, and I may get some sleep after having finished a great article on how to win more money at poker using NLP. Yet for some reason just writing this post seems more fulfilling.

I do want to leave you with something. Just a small exercise to prove to you that phobias are ‘in fact’ just created. Whatever the phobia is be it public speaking , elevator, etcc… Grab a tennis ball. And as you walk towards the stage, just throw the tennis ball back and forward slowly but continuously from your left hand to your right, and back again. By doing this exercise it engages both sides of your brain……well actually, I won’t tell you why this works so well, and yes obviously it is a temporary solution. But once you’ve tried this exercise and realised that just doing that can suspend your phobia – even if for a moment. Then please wonder what else is possible. What life would be like without this phobia and more importantly the number one question I ask ALL my clients/

“what will you do with all that spare time”

Guys, I hear ya, I know – and now you do too. As Dr Bandler says (inventor of NLP) Freedom is everything and Love is all the rest. And on that note, I shall leave you.

vimal / vchatwani@gmail.com

I’m not arguing with your basic idea but it’s important to remember that most people who think/say they have Glossophobia actually don’t. What most people have is a perfectly natural, normal and appropriate fear. Fear and phobia are not the same thing – but we live in such a cossetted society that we tend to be confused about this kind of thing.

Many of the people we train (we’re a company of public speaking and presentation trainers) say they’re Glossophobic and are very pleasantly surprised to discover that they’re actually *normal*. Calling things a phobia when they aren’t isn’t helpful….

That said, your tips are generally valid for overcoming that *fear*

Good points!

Cheers…. Simon