When it comes to the game of dating, you either win or you go alone. There is no prize for the second place finisher in this race; there can only be one guy who gets the girl (or vice versa). This race just happens to have one of the largest competitor pools in the world, so how are you going to step up your game and prove you’re the right one?
Like actual foot races, there are ways you can improve yourself and better your chances of brushing away the competition. If you’re looking to bring one of your classmates out on a date, or someone in your social circle, or even a random stranger at the bar, there are several approaches that will help you stand out from the crowd.
There’s only so much you can do to get rid of competition; a lot of the process comes down to how you present yourself as well. We outline a few tips on how to come out the winner in this highly competitive game of dating by improving yourself, and knocking down others.
1. Be Confident in Yourself.
Confidence isn’t shown through conversation alone. There are many ways you can present yourself as a strong individual without even opening your mouth. Body language can often be a much stronger tool for success, and can make you appear much more confident even if you don’t feel it.
2. Have a Good Posture.
Your mom was right, you know! Don’t be a slouch. Proper posture oozes confidence and greatly improves your chances. Keep a straight back and don’t be afraid to exaggerate your best assets.
3. It’s All About Presentation.
Dressing well and being stylish should go without saying, but you also need to monitor how you present your movements and expressions.
Rushing around indicates nervousness and anxiety. Instead, be smooth and fluid with your movements and take your time getting there; your possible date isn’t going to go anywhere when you move around with this kind of confidence.
Using the right kinds of expressions also goes a long way. You might think you look mysterious or interesting by keeping a blank gaze over your face at all times, but that’s no way to get noticed. For both guys and girls, smiles go a long way. They make you seem more approachable and easier to talk to.
4. Be True to Yourself.
Being true to yourself applies more to the world of dating than if you are looking for a one-night stand. Changing who you are for a night might be a way to appear more attractive at the time, but if you’re looking to string a date into a relationship then your lies are going to be discovered sooner than later.
Being yourself also means you’re more likely to find someone who actually likes the self you are comfortable with, and not the person you pretend to be. If you’re looking for a long-term relationship, present yourself as you are.
Show off what you’re good at, and don’t be shy about talking up your interests. Common interests can make lasting relationships and build strong foundations between the two of you. If you don’t happen to share those interests, it doesn’t necessarily have to work out between the two of you. There are literally millions of others out there who could be your potential match, so don’t limit yourself to just one guy or girl if things aren’t working out.
There may come a time when a friend needs to tell you to stop being yourself if you are seeing no results. If this means changing your attire from trench coats and bunny ears to something more stylish, I would say go ahead and listen to them.
This might also mean you have to stop talking about how much you’re obsessed with video games or horses every second you get. It’s good to have these interests, but being overbearing with them can turn people away.
5. Beating out the Competition.
There is no doubt that a very different game is played by men and women when attracting others. In this case, the best offence is a good defence. Improving yourself is almost always better than resorting to sabotage or deception.
Competition for a date can ruin friendships and create bitter rivals, so be careful who you compete with if you don’t want to damage things between you and a friend or co-worker.
Luckily, there are ways to get rid of your competition without having to feel guilty about it. If you focus too much on getting rid of a single competitor just to boost your own chances, it’s likely that your time could be much better spent on actually improving yourself. Besides, where there’s one competitor, there’s almost always another who’s ready to take their place. Rather than worrying about what the other competitors are doing, work on improving yourself.
6. Suggestions for Guys.
Believe it or not, being solely good looking isn’t enough to get a strong relationship going. You need to be interesting while still appearing strong and confident. There are ways to play the role of the strong silent type, but you’re still going to have to open your mouth at some point to get things rolling along. The other guy is going to win one hundred percent of the time if you don’t even make the effort to initiate contact with your crush.
Worrying too much about others swooping in to your target can also make more problems for you. If you try to isolate her or talk poorly about others before your relationship has even started, it might make you look deceptive, jealous, or just unconfident.
7. Suggestions for Girls.
Sometimes men can be bumbling lummoxes, so being straightforward and honest with your approach is often the best option. If you like him, then go talk to him. Show your interest as best as you can and keep the conversation interesting. As much as everyone likes to talk about themselves, it’s not always as fun for the other person.
Being straightforward is also important when competing with others. If the guy doesn’t know about your intentions, you might lose your chance with him if another woman is more honest about how they feel.
All things considered, it’s not the end of the world if you get rejected. It’s better to have tried and failed than to have never tried at all. If you don’t even bother putting yourself out there, your chances of success are zero. Don’t let one rejection get you down, because with more persistence in your approach comes more experience. With more practice comes more confidence, and hopefully more success. Now go get that girl or guy of your dreams, tiger!