Is there anything more important than your privacy? Sure, you usually want to be friends with your neighbors. But some of your neighbors might take this relationship too far. If you have a neighbor that is annoying, that continues to pester you, or is just overly friendly, you are well within your right to be frustrated.
Nosy neighbors tend to talk about anything and everything, which certainly includes their fellow neighbors that live around them. Who knows what they might be saying about you and your family when you are not around? If you have a nosy neighbor that refuses to leave you alone, do not despair. Whether they are confrontational, or are sneakily trying to spy on you, there are several methods you can follow to get rid of them. Read on to find out how!
1. Discover the cause.
Before you take any drastic preventative measures, you should try and find out why exactly your neighbors are so nosy. What is causing them to give you such a hard time?
One of the most common forms of nosy neighbor syndrome is jealousy. If you happen to have a nice yard, a nice house, or something exciting like a swimming pool, chances are high that they might be a touch jealous of the things you have. Perhaps they cannot afford them, or they are simply just curious about what you have going on.
Sometimes nosy neighbors are spying on you because they find you attractive, or they find someone in your family attractive.
Perhaps the biggest culprit of having a nosy neighbor is boredom. They might have nothing to do, so they take pleasure in bothering you every chance that they get. This behavior can be straight up annoying, or it might even be hurtful if they are trying to spread rumors about you. Don’t let this happen!
2. Confront them.
Once you have figured out why your nosy neighbor is giving you a hard time (or if you at least have an idea), it is time to tell them off. The usual chitchat that takes place between neighbors is perfectly acceptable, but if you feel they have gone too far, you are well within your rights to say something to them.
The easiest way to get rid of your nosy neighbors is to be harsh. It is unacceptable if they are constantly invading your privacy, and you should tell them so. If you have to get a little angry, that is fine. You should never resort to physical violence, of course, as this could get you in trouble with the law.
You can also try taking a gentler approach, which will likely be more difficult. Try reasoning with your nosy neighbors and politely ask them to give you the space you need. Clearly outline the behaviors you are unhappy with, and let them know that you will not stand for them.
Most of the time, a nosy neighbor will back off if you confront them. Perhaps they will be offended, but these sorts of people usually know when they are being nosy, so they can’t hold a grudge (or they shouldn’t, anyhow). Get your privacy back!
3. Build a fence.
If your diplomatic approach failed, it might be time for some more serious measures. What better way to get rid of a nosy neighbor than to deny them access?
One of the best ways to do this is to put up a fence around your property. If your neighbors can stroll onto your lawn or into your backyard at any time, you have a problem on your hands.
Obviously, a fence is a very clear indication that you are trying to make a change on your property. Frame the construction of this fence in terms of the protection of your privacy, rather than as a way to keep your neighbors out (even if this is the true purpose of the fence).
Always make sure you are building on your own property, and that you have the authority to do so. You would not want to accidentally sink a posthole on your neighbors’ property and have a nightmare to deal with when they file a trespassing complaint.
4. Plant a row of hedges or trees.
If you feel that a fence is too extreme of a measure, you can try planting some trees instead. This measure will provide you with some protection that is a little les obvious than a solid fence.
Keep in mind that this method will take some time to come into effect. You can buy fairly large trees that will serve your purpose, however. This is a smart idea, but these big trees will be quite difficult to install. Plants and hedges might also need some regular maintenance, so you should know what you are getting into. Keeping a garden can be a fun activity, of course, so if you are an active gardener, this might be the solution for you.
The advantages of trees are that they give you a nice natural look than a fence, while serving the same purpose.
Consider planting any number of these types of trees: pine, oak, maple, cypress, dogwood, poplars, or even fruit trees. Come up with something that you will not only enjoy but will also give you some solid protection from unwanted eyes or attention.
5. Keep your shades or curtains drawn.
If you are suffering from unwanted eyes peering through your windows, try using a privacy shield, like a curtain or a window shade, to deny these eyes any access.
Tinted glass is also a good solution if you have the money to have your windows tinted. The same idea will then apply that you have when driving your car. You can see out, but others cannot see in!
6. File a complaint.
Sometimes you just have to fight fire with fire. If talking to your nosy neighbor did not work, you might need to take a more serious step.
The behaviour of nosy neighbors can imitate that of a stalker, a potential thief, or even a voyeur. Is this neighbor going to cause physical or emotional harm to either you or someone in your family? If you think the answer might be yes, it is time to contact your local authorities.
File your complaint with your local police office. Your neighbor might be officially warned or even arrested, if the situation is serious enough. Try keeping notes of all the times you have been bothered by a nosy neighbor (or times that you have not felt safe) so that you have something to reference back to when the time comes.
7. Take them to court.
If all else fails, you might need to take this nosy neighbor to court. In severe cases, you might need a restraining order. Talk with your other neighbors to see if they feel the same way, and ask if they would be willing to provide testimony or evidence to help your case.
Getting rid of a nosy neighbor can be a challenging process, but it does not have to be impossible. There is certainly a line between annoying and over the top. If you feel your nosy neighbors have crossed the line, follow the suggestions in this article to get them to back off. Using the right combination of solutions along with a strong attitude, you (hopefully) will never be bothered by them again.