How many times have we caught ourselves with clenched fists? How about the times when we say things that we do not really mean? All of these dire situations are caused by one intense emotion that is often more destructive than productive.

Anger is the usual reaction of action of some people whenever a situation turns bad or goes against their favor. People often resort to lashing out with hurtful comments or sometimes, violence whenever they get angry. Angry people will get satisfied once they release their anger but such an act bears an unfavorable price. These people will find several broken relationships, a lot of depressing moments and a good string of unhappy days. Drastic individuals will even commit heinous crimes just to appease their angry souls.

You can avoid all the consequences that go along with anger. Learn to get rid of anger and you'll be surprised at how the quality of your life will improve.

Option A: Treat Anger as a State of Mind

States of mind are infectious. These emotional and mental phases start off as simple ideas that eventually turn into theories. When the theories become solid, your entire body will conform to the rules bound by those theories. Soon, some of the people around you will act in accordance to those theories, especially if you are quite charismatic.

Anger works in a similar manner as it controls your entire body and influences some of the people who are considerably close to you. Since anger is the product of a single or a combination of ideas, you can readily attack anger from its source, your mind. Remember that a strong idea begets supporting ideas and strong ideas are repulsed by even stronger ideas.

Think of an idea that is much stronger than anger. That idea could come in the form of solutions, inspirational things, or the sweet little gestures of your loved ones. Once you have settled on an idea stronger than anger, place much focus on that idea until you can form solid statements about it. Compile those statements and associate them to your own set of personal beliefs.

Once done, give yourself a break. Engage in a few moments for free thinking. Pretty soon, you will have an epiphany as being angry will feel pointless. You can now resolve the thing or scenario that triggered your anger since you have a more open state of mind.

Option B: Anger is Release

The reason why you feel that you are about to burst whenever you are angry or in love is because strong emotions demand to be released. The basic reaction of people is to come up with the most drastic ways to release their emotions. In your case, you may need to release anger especially if you have stored large amounts of the emotion. The thing in question is how will you release anger in a non-destructive way.

A good strategy is to maintain a journal. You can write why you are feeling angry in your journal with minimal biases. Narrate how you currently feel and explain your current thought process, if necessary. When you have finished writing an entry, do something else for about 20 minutes. You can have coffee, smoke a couple of cigarettes or listen to good music just to distract you from what you wrote.

After your mini-break, view your journal entry. You will notice that the level of your anger has totally dropped. Focus on the issue stated on your journal and think that you are an adviser reading someone else's problems. Just so you know, many people respond better to problems if act as advisers or clearer heads. You can use that tactic to your advantage by detaching yourself from your issue and solving your problem in your journal. At the end of your journal writing session, you will feel light since your anger and your issues have been resolved.

Ah, so much action in seeming inactivity.

Option C: The Coin Holds a Simple Lesson

If you look at a coin closely, you will notice that its sides contain very different signs and symbols. One side may hold something historical or political, while the other can bear images about social conditions and social sectors. Despite of the vast differences of each side, they still pertain to one nation, your country.

In the case of your anger, you are certainly angry about a certain incident or scenario. Think of your anger as one side of an imaginary coin. On that side, you will find images and symbols of your reasons for being angry and what you plan to do about them.

You can then fill up the other side of your imaginary coin with the proverbial “other side of the story.” Mark that side with pictures and signs that pertain to the probable reasons why the subject of your anger reacted in a bad way or happened in such an unfavorable manner. Do not think of yourself as the protagonist for this side.

When both sides of the coin have been marked, you will understand the big picture and eventually, let go of your anger. You might even realize that you are also at fault, which is why the bad situation got blown up in the first place.

According to historic wise men, there is always more than one side to every story. The same goes with your anger as evidenced by the simplest item in your back pocket.

One Final Thought...

Anger can be quite addictive, which is why some people are considered to be violent in nature. For some individuals, they get to look cool, say the best lines, write the best poems or sing the best songs when they are angry. Those characteristics may be true but at the end of the day, those people are miserable and unhappy.

The moment you learn to control and dispose of your anger properly, you will realize that life is not as hard as what others picture it to be. You will breeze through life with tons of good epiphanies and a big smile on your face. Now, doesn't that sound nice?