Your dad's a good provider and a great guy to be with, but he's not exactly the perfect husband. You don't want your mom to know about it just yet, but you know that your dad's having an affair with another woman. Maybe it's his secretary at the office, a woman he met at the pub (Want to hookup successfully, read Top 10 methods to a successful bar hook-up), or some long-lost fling from his high school days. You don't want to let your mom know, because she may end up hurt by your dad's infidelity. You definitely want to give your dad a piece of your mind, but you don't want to hurt his feelings. There are more than a few things you want to do to that home-wrecking skank your dad has for a girlfriend, but you don't know how to go about it. Never fear, because here are some ways you can get rid of your dad's girlfriend.

 

 

Confront Your Dad

 

Your dad may have his “reasons” for having an affair with another woman. He may be hostile and say that his life is none of your business. Maybe he will try to be calm and explain that he has needs that your mom can no longer provide. While there are times that your dad is right, this is definitely a time that he's completely wrong. Your dad might be out of touch with the reality of the situation, or he simply doesn't want to admit his mistakes. You need to point out that: When he and your mom got married, they promised to stay together for better or for worse, in sickness and in health, until death do them part. If your dad cannot live up to a promise as a husband, then he should live up to his word as a man. Tell him that as his child, you feel hurt and betrayed that he left your mom for another woman. If he can do that to your mother, then he is also capable of leaving you. It's all right to feel hurt and angry that your dad betrayed your family, but you need to work out the differences between you and your dad as calmly and reasonably as possible.

 

Tell Your Mom

 

If your mom still doesn't know that your dad is having an affair with another woman, it doesn't do you any good to hide your dad's dirty little secret. You need to tell your mom sooner or later that your dad is being unfaithful. The longer you wait to tell your mom, the worse off the situation will be. Tell your mom as soon as you can that your dad is having an affair. She may already have a faint or even a good idea of who your dad's girlfriend is. The best thing to do at this point is to let your parents settle their differences as a couple.

 

Get Evidence

 

Adultery is a crime, and you and your mom are well within your rights to take your dad to court if you have proof. You can hire a private investigator to get recorded evidence like tape recordings, hidden photographs, and video surveillance. A private investigator's services can be expensive, and you may not be able to afford it, plus the financial burden of court costs. If you do get your hands on a picture or an audio/video recording of your dad having an affair, it's best to use it as a threat against him. Show him that you have concrete and solid evidence that he's cheating on your mom and is betraying your family. He may have a sudden attack of conscience and realize how wrong he is in betraying his own family. If he still doesn't budge, threaten to take him to court and sue him for all he's worth. After all, he should be prepared for the consequences of cheating on his own family.

 

Confront the Girlfriend

 

In time you'll have to deal with your dad's girlfriend. It's all right to feel angry and resentful, and you may even end up trading slaps and blows with the woman who took away your dad. While your father should rightfully be blamed for being unfaithful, his girlfriend is also to blame for wrecking your family's life. Pick a good time to confront your dad's girlfriend. Don't confront your dad's girlfriend in public; the least you want is to add to the many scandals your family already has to deal with. It's still best to confront her in private, just in case you need to settle your differences in anything but a diplomatic way. If you'll have to trade blows and fighting words with each other, no one has to see it. Now that you're defending your family's name and honor, you may need to set yourself up for the fight of your life.

 

Give the Cold Shoulder Treatment

 

The cold shoulder is a very effective way to get your feelings across, especially if your dad has the gall to bring home his girlfriend as “just a friend.” Here are some effective ways to cast the cold shoulder on your dad and his girlfriend:

• Don't talk to them over dinner.
• If you have to talk to them, treat them very civilly. The more they feel uncomfortable with your very formal treatment, they'll get the message.
• Emphasize the word “father” whenever you talk about your dad.
• Have your mom cook an unusual or very ordinary meal.
• Don't warm up to your dad.

 

Let Cooler Heads Prevail

 

Sometimes your father can be so irritated that he'll ask what's going on. Tell your dad calmly that he can't hide his dirty little secret forever, and that you know that he's being unfaithful to everyone in the family. At first he will deny it and defend his innocence, perhaps even be irritated and feel like that you're accusing him of something. In time, your dad will have to own up to his fault, but he will still defend himself and say instead that it's all your fault and your mother's fault. When this happens, try to keep things level and argue in a grown-up, reasonable way. Infidelity can sometimes escalate into domestic violence. The next thing you know, you may end up arguing with each other at the police station or in court.

 

Expect the Worst

 

When your dad cheats on your mom, it's a sure sign that he's not in love with his wife anymore. Maybe the relationship just couldn't work out the way it should, or maybe your dad just showed everybody his true colors (Let your mom, read how to get rid of a cheating partner). Chances are your mom is a strong-willed woman, and she probably won't take her husband back after he betrayed the vows they made to each other when they got married. Chances are your dad will probably be fed up with his own frustrations, and just leave his family altogether. Expect the worst when your dad cheats on you. Take it as a challenge that when he walks out of the family, all of you should remain strong, and you do not need someone as weak as he is to live your lives in peace and happiness. The worst is over when your dad leaves, and when you don't have to worry about where he was last night anymore. We all expect our fathers to be good providers and not be womanizers. One day your dad will be sorry for hooking up with a girlfriend even though he was married. You should keep that nightmare that is dad's girlfriend as a lesson to always stand by your promises, your family, and your spouse.