Some people cannot stand the fact that they are alone. They tend to wallow in their misery as they watch groups of people have fun in a certain establishment. For a lonely single person, the situation gets even worse when those groups of people turn out to be couples. Lonely people gradually get more cynical as their period for loneliness stretches on. Incidentally, depression springs out from this cynicism, which makes a lot of lonely people miserable.

Loneliness is an emotional state where a person feels empty or isolated. Contrary to popular belief, loneliness does not instantly equate to being alone. It is actually a choice to feel alone in particular situations. A person can be lonely even if he is with a group of people, the moment he feels emptiness with his companions or he sees the need for isolation. Clearly, loneliness is a state of mind as much as it is an emotional state. It can also be a comfort zone or a defense mechanism for some people.

Any state of mind can be counteracted with a more powerful emotional or mental state, which leads us to the remedies for loneliness:

Loneliness is a Choice

Loneliness can stem from a multitude of reasons. A person can be lonely due to a painful experience, non-conformist ideologies, insecurities, behavioral routines and personal preferences. Whichever reason that a person has for being lonely, the state of loneliness is actually his choice. He could easily dispel the effects of loneliness if he wants to. As you can see, the real problem faced by lonely individuals is their willingness to leave their protective cloak of loneliness.

Open-minded people can choose to leave their phase of loneliness after a realization or two. Though, some people have grown too accustomed to their loneliness that the emotional state becomes a reflex action whenever they feel threatened or uncomfortable. Good thing there is a solution right within the lines of loneliness itself.

• Solitude, the Better Side of Loneliness – Solitude is being alone without feeling lonely. Often called sanctuary, people are more productive when in solitude since they can reflect on certain portions of their lives and solve some of their personal issues. Creative people take solitude as the time to release thoughts and emotions through journal entires, poems, paintings or any activity that their passions dictate to them. More often than not, people end up feeling refreshed after a period of solitude.
• Turn Loneliness into Solitude – The thin line separating loneliness and solitude is the search for inspiring moments. A person can switch from being lonely to solitary if he lessens his bias towards his issues or his reasons for choosing to be lonely. You could view the positive and negative sides of every situation, then see how you can strengthen your character through those situations.



• The Journal Method - To make the transition easier, you can bring a journal, where you can write your own issues, problems or your realizations throughout the day. Take a short breather after writing your piece just to balance out the negative vibe of the journal entry. When you are ready, play the role of adviser and write down your unbiased resolutions and opinions regarding the entry that you just wrote. If you have a strong attachment to your biases, you can imagine the entry as something written by one of your close friends. After reading the resolutions, you will probably have an epiphany that will disempower your state of loneliness. You could strengthen that epiphany by focusing on your passions and aspirations from that point on. Soon, you will realize that the world is filled with good possibilities to focus on just a single one, which is loneliness.

Abundance is a Better Release

Most of the time, lonely people have a cynical stand on their loneliness. They can always claim that no one understands them or cares for them, which is why they chose to be lonely. Ironically, the answer to their claims lies in an emotional state that is considered the opposite of loneliness. That answer is called abundance.

Abundance is spreading yourself through social scenes and activities, in the hopes of garnering more avenues to reach your goals. Abundant people can be found almost anywhere as they mingle with various people and engage a plethora of activities. Often mistaken as social butterflies, these people are quite comfortable spreading themselves out in society since they get to meet people who can totally understand them. If they are lucky, some of the people they meet along the way can present good career or personal opportunities.

• Why Abundance? - Loneliness often entails people to ’soul search’ as they wait for their desired situations to appear. Abundance, on the other hand, gives people chances to see or even create their desired situations. With the amount of people and scenes that abundant people encounter, these people can readily select a group that can cater to their personal needs, a group that could stand as romantic prospects, and so forth. If you create an analogy between loneliness and abundance, you will probably say that loneliness is digging up your own hole, while abundance is plugging every hole that you mistakenly dug up.



• Fitting in – One of the most common complaints of lonely people is they cannot seem to find a group that they will fit in. They view their loneliness as a form of silent protest against society for being too generic. Little do they know that abundance is really the solution to this problem. If you are abundant, you will be able to meet different types of people, until you find folks who can thoroughly compliment your personality and your preferences. You can also pick up new habits, philosophies and avenues for growth as you make your social journey.

Loneliness = Procrastination = Pointless

The remedies presented in this article are effective but may not work for all people. Since loneliness is a subjective term, the best remedies may vary from one person to another.

If you truly want to get rid of your loneliness, just keep in mind that you cannot resolve anything with such a paralyzing emotional state. You can only achieve results if you are brave enough to face the hardships attached to your every aspiration. Besides, the only time that you can ever be lonely is the moment you choose to see yourself as someone lonely.

Get up from your lonely state and make that bold first step.