Godzilla, the King of All Monsters, has many special powers and abilities that makes him a formidable opponent against his enemies. Godzilla has super-strength, has the ability to radiate nuclear pulses, and releases a powerful atomic ray from his mouth. Godzilla is also impervious to many conventional weapons. Bridezilla, the Queen of Her Wedding, also has many superpowers that are similar to those of Godzilla. She makes a very formidable opponent against her own friends, family, and wedding planners. She is super-annoying, has the ability to nag people, and can release a powerful string of curses and complaints from her mouth. Bridezilla is impervious to everything about the conventional wedding.

All women want to have a memorable wedding, but the bridezilla wants nothing less than the perfect wedding. Bridezillas whine and complain about things like bridal showers, how the bridesmaid should be dressed, how many layers should there be on the wedding cake, and who should be the guests at their wedding. Bridezillas are very rude, lack manners, and are not above insulting friends and family members who “ruin” their wedding plans.

You don't have to break out the nuclear missiles or activate the Oxygen Destroyer to get rid of the bridezilla. Here are some ways to help the bride get her perfect wedding, without her turning into a twisted mutant monster.

Come to an Understanding

To any bride, her wedding day is the most special and most important moment of her life. Many brides can get along the occasional quirks and mistakes that can happen in a wedding, but the bridezilla would have none of it. It's tempting to snub the bridezilla and tell her off for being such a prissy soon-to-be Little Mrs. Perfect, but it's her wedding.

Before you start exchanging hateful words or come to blows over the wedding, you and the bride need to agree on a few things:

• You're only trying to help. As her friend or as part of her family, you're only trying to do the best you can to make sure she gets her dream wedding.
• You're making do with what you have. Some brides want to have weddings that are way beyond the budget, or are too complicated to prepare.
• You're only trying to make her happy. There are things that can happen in a wedding that nobody wants to happen, like accidents or mishaps. While you'll try to make the wedding as perfect as possible, the important thing is you're doing your best to make the bride happy.

Set Realistic Goals

Before you help plan the wedding with the bride-to-be, you should know that there's no such thing as a “perfect wedding,” where nothing could go wrong. Sure, the idea of getting married under a spectacular fireworks display is grand, but not realistic. When you plan and prepare for a wedding, you need to consider some very important things that involve the wedding itself:

• Money. The budget is perhaps the most important thing that comes into play at any wedding. The bridal shower, reception, honeymoon, preparations, and the wedding itself have to be paid off. Everyone, from family and friends, would find it in the goodness of their hearts to chip in and help pay off the perfect wedding. Money will be tight and the wedding will have to proceed on a limited budget. Everyone, especially the bride, should understand that there are some sacrifices that have to be made to make sure the wedding goes without a hitch.
• Time. Not only does a bridezilla want to get everything done perfect, but also wants those things done in the least amount of time. If you prepare the wedding way in advance, then there's a good chance that the wedding will proceed without a hitch. Some people have jobs, families, and school to attend to.
• The feelings of others. Just because it's a bride's time to shine doesn't mean that everyone should look after her, or that everyone's life should revolve around the day of her wedding. People have lives to live on their own too, and while everyone looks forward to someone's wedding, it's just not fair to expect everyone to devote their time to the bride.

Suck It Up

Pre-wedding jitters can turn even a blushing bride into a red-faced scream machine that will test your patience. Try your best not to lose your cool. A bridezilla will test your patience, especially when she starts to fret about the details of the bridal shower, the wedding, the reception, and just about everything else that has to do with her wedding.

Rather than solve your problems through a cat fight, it's a better idea to just do what the bride wants. After all, it is her wedding, and you're helping her out as a friend or as a family member. Just give it a deep breath, a shrug of the shoulders, and try to give the bride the best wedding you can possibly help out with.

Let It Slide

While not everyone's a bridezilla, almost all brides have a few bridezilla-like episodes. Maybe all a bride wants is a perfect wedding, but it's not perfect when she starts screaming at the top of her lungs just because the shades of the bridesmaids' dresses don't match. Maybe it's because you don't want to lend your car for a wedding reception that makes them seem more well-off than they are. As long as you can stand it, it's best to let some of these hurtful things go. Holding a grudge would only cause more problems that will make the wedding a total disaster.

Put Your Foot Down

Sometimes a bridezilla can be so overzealous with her own wedding that she becomes obnoxious and totally inconsiderate. You did just about everything for her: you paid for her bridal shower, you picked out her wedding dress, you helped sample the menus for the reception, and you wheedled out a good deal for the reception hall at some swanky hotel. Still, the bridezilla thinks that you're just jealous, and you're doing your best to ruin her wedding. As much as you try to explain your side, she still won't listen.

Make a mental note about everything that went wrong that wasn't your fault:

• Did the bride's family help foot the bill for the wedding, or at least helped clean up?
• Is the wedding practical?
• Has the whole event been prepared and executed properly?
• Did you hear some of the bridesmaids complain about how they were mistreated?

If you know you did your part and then some, yet the bride still wants you out, then there's nothing wrong with leaving. You can only put up with so much abuse and inconsiderate behavior.

Revenge: Serve It Cold

Chances are that if the bridezilla was a self-centered whining bottom-feeder before and during the wedding, she'll transform into wife-zilla in a couple of weeks. Here are some ideas on how to get your just desserts from the newlyweds who didn't even bother to give you a thank-you note or serve dessert at their wedding reception:

• Don't invite her to your own wedding. She'll probably get the message when you invite all your friends except her. She'll probably be hurt and act spiteful, but you do reap what you sow.
• Buy a cheap gift. You could have given the newlyweds an expensive set of china, but since they acted so rudely, you can give them the nice gift of a porcelain bedpan. Tell them that it's a sign of good fortune in the Far East.
• Wear a black dress. Bridezillas can ruin your life. They can mooch off your funds, force you to do all sorts of things to make you feel guilty, and end up humiliating you in front of everyone. When the wedding day comes, and you really want to exact revenge, wear a black dress to the occasion. It may seem like in bad taste, but she did call you a witch (or a word that rhymes with it) in public.
• Catch the bouquet, and throw it back. There's no better way to serve up your revenge by throwing back that cheap bouquet to the bride when you happen to catch it during the bridal toss. You have to make it look graceful, but try to aim for the back of the bridezilla's head. If all you're going to get is a bouquet for all your troubles and the insults you took for that wedding to happen, then make it count.
• Wait. Bridezillas usually evolve to wife-zillas. Wife-zilla is the reason why many men are nervous at their wedding, and would do anything to bolt out the door. If she's a very nasty bride, then she'll end up a nasty wife. In the end, she'll receive a pretty nasty divorce.

The best thing to do is to forgive the bridezilla for acting so childish and so immature. Chances are she'll find the error of her ways, and be really sorry for what she did. Be the better person, and accept the apology.

If only a bridezilla is the product of nuclear tests and genetic mutation, then their behavior is excusable. The problem is that bridezillas are perfectly normal people that show their true colors when they're in the spotlight. Cross your fingers that soon, bridezilla will realize that she's married to King Kong.