There's no better feeling than falling in love, but there's no worse feeling than knowing that love is not meant to be. She's always on your mind, she has a special place in your heart, and your soul yearns for you to be by her side forever. Chances are, she feels the same way. While you love her for everything she is and everything you are, it's just not meant to be. Maybe she already has a boyfriend, or that her parents are too strict. Maybe you hurt her feelings in the past and she needs time to trust you once again. For the moment, she's the other woman in your life --- like it or not, she's your pseudo-girlfriend. Mutual understanding is part of romance, but love shouldn't get stuck at that phase. Being truly, madly, and deeply in love should require commitment; however, you cannot force your feelings on somebody, and sometimes you just have to accept that your love is not meant to be. You need to get around this confusing and depressing feeling the best way you can. Here are some ways to help you get rid and get over a pseudo-girlfriend.

Know Your Limits

OK, you're truly, madly, and deeply in love, but the only problem is that there are a lot of things in the way of the relationship to kick off. While it's true that love knows no bounds, there are limits to even the most passionate of feelings and desires:

• The girl doesn't love you back, or doesn't love you as much. Sometimes you have to face the harshest reality of them all: that your love isn't reciprocated. You may shower the girl with all your love and affection, but if she doesn't at least acknowledge your presence or your feelings, then there's definitely something wrong with the relationship.
• There are other commitments and priorities. Love takes time, but love also takes up time. When you love somebody, you have to give up something you love to make the relationship work. Maybe you both need to settle important problems and priorities first before you pursue a deeper and more meaningful relationship.
• You don't know each other as much. “Beautiful” may be an understatement. Her eyes are the gleaming stars in the darkness of your life. Her hair is like a wonderful waterfall, her body's like that of a goddess from the heavens. She's the mirror of your dreams, the smile reflected in the stream, the reason you survive, the why and wherefore you're alive. Yet you can't say much about her life story or her personality because whether you like it or not, you only like her for her looks.
• There are things that you can't do anything about. Love conquers all, but it can also be conquered. There are many things that can get in the way of a relationship being pursued. You may be too shy, or that the girl already has a romantic commitment of her own. You have to face the the fact that there are many things and many people that will get in the way of love, and you have a lot of proving to do to show that you truly love somebody.

Who Is She In Your Life?

Most pseudo-relationships start when a guy calls, or thinks of a girl as his “girlfriend” just because they have feelings for each other. Feelings have a great deal to do with love, but romance is about commitment. There are many reasons why pseudo-relationships are hurtful:

• The girl won't know. It's one thing to love her, but it's another thing to love without proof or commitment. Commitment is something that you should always strive to prove and live up to. It's one thing to say and to feel that you love somebody but you should always live up to what you say.
• The girl will feel used. Girls don't like the feeling of being used by guys as a trophy girlfriend or as an ornamental girlfriend. You can't call a girl your “girlfriend” unless you've settled on a commitment with each other.
• You won't be able to get over the feeling. Having a pseudo-girlfriend can also hurt your own feelings in the long run. You're only hurting yourself if you treat the one you love as anyone other than the most important woman in your life.

You and the girl should be able to come to terms into who you are to each other and what you mean to each other's lives. You must settle the grounds of the relationship before doing anything else. Is she your friend? Is she your best friend forever? Do you want to be her boyfriend? Are you convincing yourself that you love her just to compensate for some insecurities you have about yourself? Settle those things first before you act on your feelings.

Express Yourself

Not everyone can express their emotions well, especially something as intense and as passionate as love. Some may find it difficult or even embarrassing. You don't have to be the showy type to be expressive and sensitive. Often a girl needs assurance that you have feelings for her. As much as possible, be direct and upfront about your feelings. While it may sound romantic to say “I love you” in a song, or through gifts like flowers and teddy bears, most girls prefer a direct, no-nonsense approach to saying what you truly feel. Besides, it's a perfectly normal emotion to say that you love someone so much that you're willing to do everything for them and that you're willing to give up everything to be with them. You don't have to feel embarrassed or inadequate. If there's nothing that will get in the way of a relationship, then it will prosper. Make sure that you do your part in making the relationship work. Once you express what you truly feel inside, everything will work out the way it should. There's a good chance that you won't get the answers you want, or that the girl probably wouldn't feel the same way about you. At least you were able to express what you truly feel inside, instead of having to live with that regret for the rest of your life.

Set Your Priorities Straight

Many guys make the mistake of compensating or excusing their insecurities by thinking that they need a girlfriend. Granted that you may really love the girl, but think about it: how much are you willing to sacrifice to be together with the woman you love? Relationships are never a bowl of cherries. You'll always have to trade off some of the things you already enjoy because a relationship deserves more of your time and attention. There are many other things in life that can make you happy, not just romance. You can find happiness in so many other things besides having a girlfriend. Try to concentrate more on your work or your studies. Enjoy the time you spend with your family and friends. In time, you may even realize that having a girl to love may be overrated, or that it's not what it's cut out to be.

Dig In Your Heels... and Walk Away

Remember that if there's no commitment to speak of, then there's no problem to solve. When faced with the problem of a pseudo-girlfriend, you have to give yourself a much-needed reality check. If there's no commitment to begin with, and there's no relationship to speak of, then there's nothing to break up. Don't force yourself to believe that there's “something special” going on, or force yourself to think that there's a “chance” if you didn't take a chance on the relationship anyway. Sometimes the best thing you can do is to walk away from that relationship that was not meant to be. Move on with your life, and you'll find happiness in places you never expected. Who knows, you may find just the right girl, at the right place, and at exactly the right time. There are so many women in the world that you're bound to find the one that you'll love, and will love you back, all the days of your life. Love has to be the one of the most complicated feelings and challenging emotions out there. While some people fantasize about an ideal love, it's still best to keep yourself grounded on reality. The strongest love is one that is committed, reciprocated, enjoyed, and mutual. The best girlfriends are those who you love for who you are, and you love for who they really are. Love, like a lot of things, should always be for real.