Comments on: How to Get Rid of Stalkers http://www.howtogetridofstuff.com/people/how-to-get-rid-of-a-stalker/ Fri, 19 Mar 2010 16:08:11 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.6 hourly 1 By: shall http://www.howtogetridofstuff.com/people/how-to-get-rid-of-a-stalker/comment-page-2/#comment-49265 shall Sun, 10 Jan 2010 08:03:10 +0000 http://www.howtogetridofstuff.com/people/how-to-get-rid-of-a-stalker/#comment-49265 Here is a little tip.... car stalking... I have had that ALOT by MR RUSSIAN stalker... what you do is... NOT DRIVE TO YOUR HOME ADDRESS!!! You slow your vehicle down a little and see if they slow down too. Most people are impatient drivers and will overtake. Another tip is do a few left turns and then pull over... The stalker will have to either follow, pull over behind you ( which they WILL NOT do) or pass around you. Normally they will be dumb and follow you... and then as you pull over... they pass... get their car registration plate... and make some type of record of it. then if you feel unsettled drive to a police station and report the incident to them. Here is a little tip…. car stalking… I have had that ALOT by MR RUSSIAN stalker… what you do is… NOT DRIVE TO YOUR HOME ADDRESS!!! You slow your vehicle down a little and see if they slow down too. Most people are impatient drivers and will overtake. Another tip is do a few left turns and then pull over… The stalker will have to either follow, pull over behind you ( which they WILL NOT do) or pass around you. Normally they will be dumb and follow you… and then as you pull over… they pass… get their car registration plate… and make some type of record of it. then if you feel unsettled drive to a police station and report the incident to them.

]]> By: shall http://www.howtogetridofstuff.com/people/how-to-get-rid-of-a-stalker/comment-page-2/#comment-49264 shall Sun, 10 Jan 2010 07:59:31 +0000 http://www.howtogetridofstuff.com/people/how-to-get-rid-of-a-stalker/#comment-49264 Well..... I had a Russian stalker for 12 years... and about 4 years of them I did not realise he was there... an arch enemy of his let me know that he was following me. I ended up moving employment and opted to go out west to a small country town area. Best move I ever made. Alas.. he still tracked me down a few years later but gave up after I was married for 5 years.... All I did was ignore that he was there... I saw him there alot... It is best to not catch their eyes when you notice them watching you in public... Otherwise... if he did catch me seeing him he would smile as if 'he had one a point' or something... Just a BIG old game! I kept a little journal of the events just in case something happened to me... It helps if other people that are known to you witness the stalking aswell... makes you feel a little more sane... :) Well….. I had a Russian stalker for 12 years… and about 4 years of them I did not realise he was there… an arch enemy of his let me know that he was following me. I ended up moving employment and opted to go out west to a small country town area. Best move I ever made. Alas.. he still tracked me down a few years later but gave up after I was married for 5 years…. All I did was ignore that he was there… I saw him there alot… It is best to not catch their eyes when you notice them watching you in public… Otherwise… if he did catch me seeing him he would smile as if ‘he had one a point’ or something… Just a BIG old game! I kept a little journal of the events just in case something happened to me… It helps if other people that are known to you witness the stalking aswell… makes you feel a little more sane… :)

]]> By: VT http://www.howtogetridofstuff.com/people/how-to-get-rid-of-a-stalker/comment-page-2/#comment-48246 VT Wed, 02 Sep 2009 12:46:55 +0000 http://www.howtogetridofstuff.com/people/how-to-get-rid-of-a-stalker/#comment-48246 No contact! I've been stalked for almost nine years now...the stalker clearly has DSM IV Cluster B issues. She uses "proxies" by manipulating my friends, family and co-workers. I now avoid all other people except my immediate family and co-workers to avoid her though as you can imagine she constantly plagues me at work. Her third-party physical violence has not been too damaging yet...a few bruises and many threats. Oddly enough, she is a trial lawyer and like many cluster B types, actually plays the victim (i.e., he doesn't like me and won't hang out w/ me...do damage to him)...as if I'm required to spend time w/ a psycho. Amazing though that people fall for her lies and manipulation. - Tired of the stalker No contact! I’ve been stalked for almost nine years now…the stalker clearly has DSM IV Cluster B issues. She uses “proxies” by manipulating my friends, family and co-workers. I now avoid all other people except my immediate family and co-workers to avoid her though as you can imagine she constantly plagues me at work. Her third-party physical violence has not been too damaging yet…a few bruises and many threats. Oddly enough, she is a trial lawyer and like many cluster B types, actually plays the victim (i.e., he doesn’t like me and won’t hang out w/ me…do damage to him)…as if I’m required to spend time w/ a psycho. Amazing though that people fall for her lies and manipulation.

- Tired of the stalker

]]> By: Anno. http://www.howtogetridofstuff.com/people/how-to-get-rid-of-a-stalker/comment-page-2/#comment-47926 Anno. Tue, 04 Aug 2009 18:30:58 +0000 http://www.howtogetridofstuff.com/people/how-to-get-rid-of-a-stalker/#comment-47926 Lauren& Eliz....... Call the police anyone who knocks on your window like that call the cops.... Lauren& Eliz……. Call the police anyone who knocks on your window like that call the cops….

]]> By: manea http://www.howtogetridofstuff.com/people/how-to-get-rid-of-a-stalker/comment-page-2/#comment-47407 manea Mon, 29 Jun 2009 22:12:30 +0000 http://www.howtogetridofstuff.com/people/how-to-get-rid-of-a-stalker/#comment-47407 also, don't appear to be affected by your stalker's actions. coz for your stalker, that's the aim - to piss you off so much, that you'll give in. talk to people you trust. tell them about your situation so they can help you. also, don’t appear to be affected by your stalker’s actions. coz for your stalker, that’s the aim – to piss you off so much, that you’ll give in. talk to people you trust. tell them about your situation so they can help you.

]]> By: manea http://www.howtogetridofstuff.com/people/how-to-get-rid-of-a-stalker/comment-page-2/#comment-47406 manea Mon, 29 Jun 2009 22:06:55 +0000 http://www.howtogetridofstuff.com/people/how-to-get-rid-of-a-stalker/#comment-47406 ok, first. do NOT put up too much personal info on sites like Facebook, MySpace, etc. try your best to get to know people really well before you trust them with stuff. get to know their friends so that you know that the person isn't starved for attention and isn't a loner. if you meet someone in person, after only knowing them online, meet in a crowded place that you know your way around, but don't usually frequent much. it's always better to be safe than sorry even if you have to be super alert all the time. i had a stalker once. he was someone i'd dated and then broken up with. he started following me everywhere. his friend stayed near my house and he'd crash with him pretty often. so as soon as i'd get out of my house, i'd find my stalker following me. everywhere. even when i'd get out to walk my dog. he'd call and say stuff like someone would kidnap me if i wasn't with him. it was scary. i had to delete my Facebook profile and all my blogs. he'd even call at home at all odd hours. thankfully i got my older bro to scare the shit out of him and he's stopped now. thank god! i guess my only advice is to get someone older involved if the situation gets really out of hand. safety is of paramount importance. so whether you're in the closet, or have had a secret relationship, or whatever, just do whatever it takes to get rid of the stalker before it gets worse. ok, first. do NOT put up too much personal info on sites like Facebook, MySpace, etc. try your best to get to know people really well before you trust them with stuff. get to know their friends so that you know that the person isn’t starved for attention and isn’t a loner. if you meet someone in person, after only knowing them online, meet in a crowded place that you know your way around, but don’t usually frequent much. it’s always better to be safe than sorry even if you have to be super alert all the time.

i had a stalker once. he was someone i’d dated and then broken up with. he started following me everywhere. his friend stayed near my house and he’d crash with him pretty often. so as soon as i’d get out of my house, i’d find my stalker following me. everywhere. even when i’d get out to walk my dog. he’d call and say stuff like someone would kidnap me if i wasn’t with him. it was scary. i had to delete my Facebook profile and all my blogs. he’d even call at home at all odd hours. thankfully i got my older bro to scare the shit out of him and he’s stopped now. thank god!

i guess my only advice is to get someone older involved if the situation gets really out of hand. safety is of paramount importance. so whether you’re in the closet, or have had a secret relationship, or whatever, just do whatever it takes to get rid of the stalker before it gets worse.

]]> By: Eric http://www.howtogetridofstuff.com/people/how-to-get-rid-of-a-stalker/comment-page-2/#comment-47220 Eric Wed, 17 Jun 2009 20:41:58 +0000 http://www.howtogetridofstuff.com/people/how-to-get-rid-of-a-stalker/#comment-47220 I wrote the last post. I need some good advice on my situation. Im being drivin insane by some freak psycho that wont stop calling my house/work/and cell. I have beaten him senceless for calling, but if i dont answer my cell.. he calls my house continueously over and over. Its actually my moms house so it causes problems when my mom answers and he just breathes in the phone. He calls my work and says he is all these different people looking for me. He has stolen over $1,000 dollars worth of property from me (so that i will try to get it back). I cant change my moms house number that she has had for 23 years. I want to change my cell, but im afraid that he will just freak out completely and try ruining my life. Nobody knows that i am bisexual and that is his leverage to keep me in his clutch. As much as i dont want anyone to know.. im thinking about just saying it so i can end all this.. is there any other way? plz help. I wrote the last post.

I need some good advice on my situation. Im being drivin insane by some freak psycho that wont stop calling my house/work/and cell. I have beaten him senceless for calling, but if i dont answer my cell.. he calls my house continueously over and over. Its actually my moms house so it causes problems when my mom answers and he just breathes in the phone. He calls my work and says he is all these different people looking for me. He has stolen over $1,000 dollars worth of property from me (so that i will try to get it back).

I cant change my moms house number that she has had for 23 years. I want to change my cell, but im afraid that he will just freak out completely and try ruining my life. Nobody knows that i am bisexual and that is his leverage to keep me in his clutch. As much as i dont want anyone to know.. im thinking about just saying it so i can end all this..

is there any other way? plz help.

]]> By: Eric http://www.howtogetridofstuff.com/people/how-to-get-rid-of-a-stalker/comment-page-2/#comment-47171 Eric Sun, 14 Jun 2009 18:08:26 +0000 http://www.howtogetridofstuff.com/people/how-to-get-rid-of-a-stalker/#comment-47171 This article helped me a lot. I am actualy being stalked by a man. We met online and started meeting in person. After about 3 months of being friends I started noticing how dramatic and bipolar he acted. He has a low self-estem, and believes that i am perfect. I work next to my moms work, and he moved into the house next to our works, and everyday when i leave he is sitting or standing around the corner. I never know where hes gonna pop out of.. but he is always somewhere. He always wants to fight, scream, make a huge scene, and cry. He takes anything he can get that i have as some reminder of me or something. Its really a scary situation. My main problem is that nobody knows that i am interested in guys, and he is using it to his advantage. I dont believe my personal life is anyones business, and would be devistating to my life if anyone found out. I have tried everything to get him away. Ive beaten him to a bloody pulp for calling my mom about 300 times in a row for two days nostop. nothing works. Now that we dont speak.. he thinks im a monster, and is filled with hate. Im about to quit my jobs and just leave. This article helped me a lot.

I am actualy being stalked by a man. We met online and started meeting in person. After about 3 months of being friends I started noticing how dramatic and bipolar he acted. He has a low self-estem, and believes that i am perfect.

I work next to my moms work, and he moved into the house next to our works, and everyday when i leave he is sitting or standing around the corner. I never know where hes gonna pop out of.. but he is always somewhere. He always wants to fight, scream, make a huge scene, and cry. He takes anything he can get that i have as some reminder of me or something. Its really a scary situation.

My main problem is that nobody knows that i am interested in guys, and he is using it to his advantage. I dont believe my personal life is anyones business, and would be devistating to my life if anyone found out. I have tried everything to get him away. Ive beaten him to a bloody pulp for calling my mom about 300 times in a row for two days nostop. nothing works. Now that we dont speak.. he thinks im a monster, and is filled with hate. Im about to quit my jobs and just leave.

]]> By: stephanie http://www.howtogetridofstuff.com/people/how-to-get-rid-of-a-stalker/comment-page-2/#comment-47098 stephanie Tue, 09 Jun 2009 18:34:45 +0000 http://www.howtogetridofstuff.com/people/how-to-get-rid-of-a-stalker/#comment-47098 my advice, speaking from experience, once i realized that i didnt want to be with him and he wasnt going to accept it...I soooo started turning him off, while yes its true that they see you as perfect and you can do no wrong, i did EVERYTHING i knew he hated in a woman, i farted in his presence i would pick off his plate, i tried to be 10x as clingy as he was with me, and it worked =D it took four months of turning the tables on him, but it worked lmao he was like i dont know what got into you but this just isnt working, i love you so much and always will and never wanted to hurt you...but i cant do this anymore haha it was amazing, i was actually very proud of myself, and it ALWAYS makes for a funny story =D hope this helps ladies and sometimes guys my advice, speaking from experience, once i realized that i didnt want to be with him and he wasnt going to accept it…I soooo started turning him off, while yes its true that they see you as perfect and you can do no wrong, i did EVERYTHING i knew he hated in a woman, i farted in his presence i would pick off his plate, i tried to be 10x as clingy as he was with me, and it worked =D it took four months of turning the tables on him, but it worked lmao he was like i dont know what got into you but this just isnt working, i love you so much and always will and never wanted to hurt you…but i cant do this anymore haha it was amazing, i was actually very proud of myself, and it ALWAYS makes for a funny story =D hope this helps ladies and sometimes guys

]]> By: Anonymous http://www.howtogetridofstuff.com/people/how-to-get-rid-of-a-stalker/comment-page-2/#comment-47010 Anonymous Thu, 04 Jun 2009 13:51:40 +0000 http://www.howtogetridofstuff.com/people/how-to-get-rid-of-a-stalker/#comment-47010 Matt Trust me that will not work. I am a stalker, it’s a sort of subconscious thing. I am at school so I guess I just subconsciously walk where I know she will be. I only realised I was when one of my friends told me that the girl was really scared of me and thought I was a stalker. Afterwards I cut myself and avoided her since. I have always been afraid of scaring people since. It was two years ago and I still feel terrible about that let alone what I still do. I am just unaware of things that I do that make girls scared. I am never going to hurt anyone but I am still scared of scaring people. It is still driving me to hate other stalkers and myself, it pushes me towards social isolation. I have gone from then when I had a normal life to know where I have about 5 friends, probably the only people I know who understand. I desperately want to help victims of stalkers. What I can say is a stalker can be stopped by threats for a short time only. The only thing that can stop them permanently is someone else. A fake myspace account might work. Make one start saying nice things to them when you a running them down with your real account. Don’t appear to be afraid, just be uninterested and negative, and try not to ignore just make conversations boring. The longer they know you the more obsessed they become. Particularly if they spend long times alone. One other thing is they will see you as perfect. And as you are not they will ignore facts or love you for your faults. They want to have a relationship with you, it probably depends on the person but I just want to be friends with the girl in question. But I almost worship her and hate others for not doing the same, I am jealous of anyone who she knows. I hope this has helped, But can I ask I want to apologise to my victims but I am afraid of further damage, any advice. And how could I find out if someone is scared of me (I can’t ask because then she will be.) Matt

Trust me that will not work. I am a stalker, it’s a sort of subconscious thing. I am at school so I guess I just subconsciously walk where I know she will be. I only realised I was when one of my friends told me that the girl was really scared of me and thought I was a stalker. Afterwards I cut myself and avoided her since. I have always been afraid of scaring people since. It was two years ago and I still feel terrible about that let alone what I still do. I am just unaware of things that I do that make girls scared. I am never going to hurt anyone but I am still scared of scaring people. It is still driving me to hate other stalkers and myself, it pushes me towards social isolation. I have gone from then when I had a normal life to know where I have about 5 friends, probably the only people I know who understand.
I desperately want to help victims of stalkers.

What I can say is a stalker can be stopped by threats for a short time only. The only thing that can stop them permanently is someone else. A fake myspace account might work. Make one start saying nice things to them when you a running them down with your real account.

Don’t appear to be afraid, just be uninterested and negative, and try not to ignore just make conversations boring.
The longer they know you the more obsessed they become. Particularly if they spend long times alone.

One other thing is they will see you as perfect. And as you are not they will ignore facts or love you for your faults.

They want to have a relationship with you, it probably depends on the person but I just want to be friends with the girl in question. But I almost worship her and hate others for not doing the same, I am jealous of anyone who she knows.

I hope this has helped,

But can I ask I want to apologise to my victims but I am afraid of further damage, any advice.
And how could I find out if someone is scared of me (I can’t ask because then she will be.)

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