Comments on: How to Get Rid of an Unwanted Admirer http://www.howtogetridofstuff.com/people/how-to-get-rid-of-an-unwanted-admirer/ Sat, 12 May 2012 15:10:13 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.6 hourly 1 By: Eric http://www.howtogetridofstuff.com/people/how-to-get-rid-of-an-unwanted-admirer/comment-page-1/#comment-49098 Eric Sun, 27 Dec 2009 04:20:41 +0000 http://www.howtogetridofstuff.com/people/how-to-get-rid-of-an-unwanted-admirer/#comment-49098 note for S: Look its not easy being stalked. Ive been stalked for about a year now, by a man so trust me i know exactly what your dealing with. First off you need to change your number and dont give it out execpt ur best friend. Get a ppo. call the cops everytime he is near you or calls. Do your own research and find out where he lives, his number, friends, work ect... KEEP YOUR ENEMIES CLOSER. Now that really sucks that he has some naughty pics of you, BUT you need to not show that you care no matter what. Do not show fear, or anger. The best thing you can do is ignore ignore ignore and dont let him get under your skin. DO NOT REPLY.. EVER. good luck note for S:

Look its not easy being stalked. Ive been stalked for about a year now, by a man so trust me i know exactly what your dealing with. First off you need to change your number and dont give it out execpt ur best friend. Get a ppo. call the cops everytime he is near you or calls. Do your own research and find out where he lives, his number, friends, work ect… KEEP YOUR ENEMIES CLOSER.

Now that really sucks that he has some naughty pics of you, BUT you need to not show that you care no matter what. Do not show fear, or anger. The best thing you can do is ignore ignore ignore and dont let him get under your skin. DO NOT REPLY.. EVER.

good luck

]]> By: S http://www.howtogetridofstuff.com/people/how-to-get-rid-of-an-unwanted-admirer/comment-page-1/#comment-47137 S Fri, 12 Jun 2009 02:54:43 +0000 http://www.howtogetridofstuff.com/people/how-to-get-rid-of-an-unwanted-admirer/#comment-47137 i seriously need help! thers a guy whose stalking me now from a very long time.i used to like him too at the beginning but then he got obsessed so i told him to back off! n now he threatens me by sayin hes gona post up my pics on fb n say stuff bout me to my friends,hes found out all my family members numbers somehow and anything i do he tells my mom!and shes too scared to report it to the police..now whenever i go out he follows my car..ive even spoken to his parents about it,they say theyll talk to him but eventually its the same thing all over! somebody pleaseee suggest me what i can do ? i seriously need help! thers a guy whose stalking me now from a very long time.i used to like him too at the beginning but then he got obsessed so i told him to back off! n now he threatens me by sayin hes gona post up my pics on fb n say stuff bout me to my friends,hes found out all my family members numbers somehow and anything i do he tells my mom!and shes too scared to report it to the police..now whenever i go out he follows my car..ive even spoken to his parents about it,they say theyll talk to him but eventually its the same thing all over!
somebody pleaseee suggest me what i can do ?

]]> By: maria http://www.howtogetridofstuff.com/people/how-to-get-rid-of-an-unwanted-admirer/comment-page-1/#comment-43959 maria Sun, 21 Sep 2008 21:26:15 +0000 http://www.howtogetridofstuff.com/people/how-to-get-rid-of-an-unwanted-admirer/#comment-43959 if the admirers are your boss or your superiors, it is so very difficult to handle it in some way.You will not know how or when to tell him that you dont want him because your job is in danger.And moreso you like your job more than your boss. but on other hand, you should not deprived yourself from anybodys foolish admirations, find ways and means to tell the person in a nice manner and tell him to stop the things that he is doing.or unless suffer the agony of running away from his likeness. if the admirers are your boss or your superiors, it is so very difficult to handle it in some way.You will not know how or when to tell him that you dont want him because your job is in danger.And moreso you like your job more than your boss.
but on other hand, you should not deprived yourself from anybodys foolish admirations, find ways and means to tell the person in a nice manner and tell him to stop the things that he is doing.or unless suffer the agony of running away from his likeness.

]]> By: Debbie Morgan http://www.howtogetridofstuff.com/people/how-to-get-rid-of-an-unwanted-admirer/comment-page-1/#comment-43579 Debbie Morgan Mon, 01 Sep 2008 04:31:29 +0000 http://www.howtogetridofstuff.com/people/how-to-get-rid-of-an-unwanted-admirer/#comment-43579 This is a great article! Since safety and security are my business, I want to stress that sometimes there's a fine line between an unwanted admirer and a stalker. Very often the relationship moves from unwanted admirer to stalker so slowly that you don't even realize you're in dangerous territory. I always advise women to at least have some form of non-lethal self protection available for those occasions when you are feeling vulnerable. Sometimes, just having it visible, such as pepper spray on a keychain will send a warning message that you shouldn't be messed with. There are lots of web sites that carry it but if you are wondering, my site is http://officialsafetyandsecurity.com. My hearts desire is to see that women are protected from violence and I want to help in any way I can. This is a great article!

Since safety and security are my business, I want to stress that sometimes there’s a fine line between an unwanted admirer and a stalker. Very often the relationship moves from unwanted admirer to stalker so slowly that you don’t even realize you’re in dangerous territory. I always advise women to at least have some form of non-lethal self protection available for those occasions when you are feeling vulnerable. Sometimes, just having it visible, such as pepper spray on a keychain will send a warning message that you shouldn’t be messed with.

There are lots of web sites that carry it but if you are wondering, my site is http://officialsafetyandsecurity.com. My hearts desire is to see that women are protected from violence and I want to help in any way I can.

]]> By: Lonely http://www.howtogetridofstuff.com/people/how-to-get-rid-of-an-unwanted-admirer/comment-page-1/#comment-43574 Lonely Sun, 31 Aug 2008 23:30:26 +0000 http://www.howtogetridofstuff.com/people/how-to-get-rid-of-an-unwanted-admirer/#comment-43574 I don't have any admirer! :-( I don’t have any admirer! :-(

]]> By: Skand http://www.howtogetridofstuff.com/people/how-to-get-rid-of-an-unwanted-admirer/comment-page-1/#comment-42938 Skand Sun, 17 Aug 2008 16:20:53 +0000 http://www.howtogetridofstuff.com/people/how-to-get-rid-of-an-unwanted-admirer/#comment-42938 Is there any article on 'how to get a secret admirer' ? Is there any article on ‘how to get a secret admirer’ ?

]]> By: Crawford http://www.howtogetridofstuff.com/people/how-to-get-rid-of-an-unwanted-admirer/comment-page-1/#comment-42937 Crawford Sun, 17 Aug 2008 16:16:18 +0000 http://www.howtogetridofstuff.com/people/how-to-get-rid-of-an-unwanted-admirer/#comment-42937 A geezer who knows both sides endorses Janey’s words. No need to be brutal -- romance wouldn’t work for you, Cupid has no arrows for you, that's all. Even a good reason may bring on flurries of Yes,but's, perhaps long-term hostility. The “reason” might be okay in somebody who turns you on. I once heard that we like people “because,” but we love them “although.” Of the thousands of books I have read, “When I Say No, I Feel Guilty.” is in the top few that did me the most good. (I HATE giving bad news, but a professor can’t avoid it.) The book would advise you to say “I understand that you want to hear more, but that’s all. It's nobody's fault. I know it can’t work, and that's really all I can say.” Keep repeating some version of ONLY that (give no straws to grasp) in a kind voice (imagine you are hearing it). A related theme: How can men know to go away unless you tell them? A friend’s sis said women like to be pursued. Harry S Truman’s perseverance for Bess is a famous example. Some women brag about how long a man persisted. Sure, that worked better in a bygone America, with customs from when women were scarce. Sure, the silly authors of “The Rules” promote it, in spite of how times have changed, especially for women past 35. Many fine men hate manipulative games, and wish not to be needy, desperate, or stalkers. They are more likely to respond to women who respond to THEM. Still, some think a woman is playing hard-to-get unless given proof to the contrary. A geezer who knows both sides endorses Janey’s words. No need to be brutal — romance wouldn’t work for you, Cupid has no arrows for you, that’s all. Even a good reason may bring on flurries of Yes,but’s, perhaps long-term hostility. The “reason” might be okay in somebody who turns you on. I once heard that we like people “because,” but we love them “although.” Of the thousands of books I have read, “When I Say No, I Feel Guilty.” is in the top few that did me the most good. (I HATE giving bad news, but a professor can’t avoid it.) The book would advise you to say “I understand that you want to hear more, but that’s all. It’s nobody’s fault. I know it can’t work, and that’s really all I can say.” Keep repeating some version of ONLY that (give no straws to grasp) in a kind voice (imagine you are hearing it). A related theme: How can men know to go away unless you tell them? A friend’s sis said women like to be pursued. Harry S Truman’s perseverance for Bess is a famous example. Some women brag about how long a man persisted. Sure, that worked better in a bygone America, with customs from when women were scarce. Sure, the silly authors of “The Rules” promote it, in spite of how times have changed, especially for women past 35. Many fine men hate manipulative games, and wish not to be needy, desperate, or stalkers. They are more likely to respond to women who respond to THEM. Still, some think a woman is playing hard-to-get unless given proof to the contrary.

]]> By: Marcy Love http://www.howtogetridofstuff.com/people/how-to-get-rid-of-an-unwanted-admirer/comment-page-1/#comment-42837 Marcy Love Fri, 15 Aug 2008 23:28:17 +0000 http://www.howtogetridofstuff.com/people/how-to-get-rid-of-an-unwanted-admirer/#comment-42837 You can also wear a string of garlic and bathe in vinegar! You can also wear a string of garlic and bathe in vinegar!

]]> By: Janey http://www.howtogetridofstuff.com/people/how-to-get-rid-of-an-unwanted-admirer/comment-page-1/#comment-42818 Janey Fri, 15 Aug 2008 17:46:23 +0000 http://www.howtogetridofstuff.com/people/how-to-get-rid-of-an-unwanted-admirer/#comment-42818 I think it's important to be honest, and to never lead the person on, even unintentionally. I think too many girls in this situation just want to be nice, so they accept compliments, small gifts, and attention when they receive it, even if they don't like the person. Or, rather than saying they don't like someone when asked out, they make excuses about not being available that night - when it's not the night, but the person that isn't right. If you aren't honest (and maybe a bit harsh) in the beginning, the niceness ends up leading guys on and it is harder and harder later on. I think it’s important to be honest, and to never lead the person on, even unintentionally. I think too many girls in this situation just want to be nice, so they accept compliments, small gifts, and attention when they receive it, even if they don’t like the person. Or, rather than saying they don’t like someone when asked out, they make excuses about not being available that night – when it’s not the night, but the person that isn’t right. If you aren’t honest (and maybe a bit harsh) in the beginning, the niceness ends up leading guys on and it is harder and harder later on.

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