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How to Get Rid of Bad Neighbors

June 14th, 2008 by admin
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neighborsYour neighbors are not just a bunch of people who live near your home. You can actually have a personal relationship with them should you wish to have instant friends. You can spend those idle weekends enjoying cookouts and sharing recipes. You can even have them keep an eye on your house when you are out on a vacation.

 

Most of us would rather have a good relationship with our neighbors, be it an active-friendly type or a passive-civil one. As long as you and your neighbors are on good terms, your neighborhood is a nice place to live in.

 

However, sometimes there are just some people in your neighborhood that you just can't seem to get along with. Your problems may arise from the loud music your neighbor plays late at night, the daily parties until early morning, or the unkempt backyard, among others.

 

Bad Neighbors? What to Do?

There are countless reasons why you may hate your neighbor, but no matter what the case is, there are a couple of things you can do to effectively get rid of them, or at least get rid of the reasons that make you think they're bad neighbors.

 

best buddies The easiest way to deal with bad neighbors is to use diplomacy first (Read Eleven ways to avoid fistfight). Don't charge them head on, or worse, try to get even with them. They may be nice people and turn out to be your best buddies in the end. Start by talking to them in a nice manner and tell them what is bothering you. It may be their smelly garbage or the worst loud music their son plays until dawn (Maybe he's running a rundown on the Top ten hilariously bad music videos of all time). The point is, you just can't ignore it and allow it to happen all the time.

 

In many cases, they may just not be aware that they are bothering you or any of your other neighbors. Talking to them will bring the issue to their attention. Only then can the appropriate action take place. There are many ways to talk to your neighbor. Here are some surefire tips:
  • Straight up – Go to your neighbor's house and tell them, in a nice way of course, of the issue that is bothering you. You can suggest things that he or she can do so that you won't be bothered anymore. If they love loud music, tell them what time you are usually in bed by.
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  • Invite them to dinner - In some neighborhoods, people still ask their neighbors to dinner. If they come over, you can start with some small talk and smoothly tell them about the problem. Inviting them to dinner is a nice gesture and may be advantageous if things turn out well. They may return the favor and invite you to dinner, too.
  • Write a letter or leave a message on voice mail – If you are busy and don't have time for either of the two initial options presented above, you can call up your neighbor and talk to them or leave a message on their voicemail. Of course you should know their telephone number first. If you don't have it, you can write them a letter telling them about your concern. Leave the letter by their doorstep or in their mailbox.
Most cases can be solved peacefully. Often, it is just a case of miscommunication. You can be proud of yourself if you have managed to solve the problem between you and your neighbor in a civil way. Just make sure that you are not causing any inconvenience to your neighbors as well. They do not want to be bothered, either. You have to be fair to them, too .

 

Diplomacy not Working: The Pesky, Bad Neighbor

Okay, so you tried diplomacy and it didn't work. They either ignored you, or worse, even intentionally made things worse for you. Now, what choices do you have left? Getting even is out of the question unless you want more problems to come. Fighting fire with fire is often the knee-jerk reaction people have, but if you do so, you will end up stuck in a mini-war with your neighbor.

 

If your neighbor is not cooperating, here's what you should do:
  • landlordTalk to the Landlord – Telling your neighbor's landlord about the inconveniences their tenant has been doing can be effective. The landlord is in the position to correct things within his area of responsibility and he or she can give corresponding warnings.
  • Make a petition – Put it into writing. Make a petition of eviction and give it to the landlord concerned. If there are others like you who are bothered by this "bad neighbor" of yours, let them sign the petition as well. Explain your neighbor's wrongdoings in full detail.
  • Gather Evidence – Installing a video camera is a good form of evidence especially in extreme cases. If you will be using a video camera, make sure it indicates the time and date of the footage. If you don't have a video camera, pictures or an audio recording can be good enough.
  • Once you have gathered sufficient evidence and the landlord option still does not seem to work, call the cops and report them. With your evidence ready, you can easily file your case.

     

    The task of gathering evidence can be time-consuming, but it is really worth it. It may cost you a bit if you will be buying surveillance cameras, so you may want to use your video camera instead. If possible, don't rely on just one source. You can combine pictures and videos to add more evidence. If you enjoyed reading this article, you'll sure enjoy reading how to get rid of nosy neighbors and how to make friends.




     

     
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    1. We live in a society in india new delhi .we hade a good friendship with one of our nieghbor.but we dont know what happened.one day we saw 2 eggs and some flowers threon in our garden.it continued for 2-3 days.it use to happen at night.we told our neighbor our friend about this.we aslo informed our common watch man of society but sooner we realised that it was our neighbor only who did it.he was strong politicaly.he had some contacts with some bad peaple he had a frnd who is very bad person.1st we avoided him but he dint understood.then somtimes he use 2 cut our phn line wire or somthing but one day we caught him getting near our car and cutting the wire .it was 10:00pm we went 2 his house and asked whats the problem we showed his wife and son the vedio including him .he then called his frnd.we shwed him the vedio 2.we knew that his frnd ids also involved in tha past happenings .but the man said he had not done it .he sweared of his childrens also.but it was all untrue he really sucks

    2. I’m already bitter I paid for my condo mere months before the market (and the price tag on my new place) dropped. A lovely set of loud, ignorant neighbors is just salt in the wound. My upstairs neighbors are renters and have no regard for anyone around them. This mother/daughter giantess duo stomp around from 7 AM until 11 PM. Occasionally, the mother’s boyfriend (also a giant and who is too lazy to park in the clearly marked VISITORS stalls and opts to use another owner’s private space instead) shows up and we have yet drum to add to this percussion from hell. Now throw in the little yappy dog who’s waste is left for the rest of us to step on, the overfed caught who runs up and down the hallways and some tacky door decor – voila! You have now met my neighbors.

      I tried exchanging pleasantries and casually reminding them that our building is 30 years old and I hear every – and I mean EVERY – step they take. Unfortunately, this woman simply nodded her head, said “no problem!” and then deleted our conversation from her memory. THUD! THUD! THUD!

      I wish I had a “tip” but all I can do is vent. Thank you, howtogetridofstuff.com for letting me expel my penned up anger. Bless me and my fist which is turning purple from uselessly pounding on the ceiling.

    3. January 2nd, 2010 at 1:31 pm    Megan Says:

      I live in an apartment complex and the person that lives next to me has some recliner chairs set up against his wall which when he or the people he invites over gets up or sits down, their chair bangs against my wall. I have shadow boxes and other things on my wall to decorate it, everytime their chair hits against the wall things fall off. I’ve already had a few things broken and I’ve gone over and nicely and explained what’s happening and asked him nicely if he could move his chairs so they wouldnt hit the wall anymore. He said ok, few days pass and it started all over again. Second time I went over there, I went over there with evidence to show what had just fallen off my wall and broke apart. I went over there and I was verbally attacked by one of his frends so we said a few words and I told him I’d set up a video camera to prove to them that I’m not just some crazy psycho person. And from there on end they have just been doing things JUST to tick me off. The banging on the walls have gotten alot harder, the people that used to just visit are NOW living with the guy thats mainly supposed to be JUST him living there and no one else. They have a dog living with them which we are NOT supposed to have ANY pets. I’ve talked to the landlord and he said he’d talk with them. He went and talked to everyone else that lives in our “circle area” of the apartments before talking to me and he said everyone else said the guy that’s making all the trouble is a “Nice guy” and that they have no problems with him. Okay… well now I’M looking like the bad guy which i am not. I’m the kind of person who RARELY complains about anything. When him and his friends were playing his new drum set all day long until 10:00 at night I never said anything. He invites his friends over and they park in my drive way like it’s not a big deal, they walk around in my yard like they just own everything. I’m sick of it and I dont want to move because I’ve been living here for three years and in those three years before them I have NEVER had issues with my neighbors EVER! I’ve gotten along with EVERYONE before these people moved in. What the heck should I do?

    4. I have these new neighbors that seem to be nice but are a bunch of wierdo’s. The father does landscaping and the mom stays at home they have four children ages 4 to 11. They called the county animal people about my dog and said that it was too skinny. Well it is a retired greyhound. I got ticketed and when the county agent called me that night he said that he had made a mistake because his supervisor has two dogs like mine and my dog looked fine to him. The agent said to throw the ticket away. Always remnember, when the city or county makes a mistake, NEVER throw it away. This makes the third time such a thing like this has happened becaus of unqualified people. Well, the next thing that happened, they backed into my chain link fence and tore it up. Called the local law enforcement and they said that if I did not see them do it or had video of it, I was up a creek with no paddle. Now she parks her van on their driveway beside the side porch and their guest have no way to get into the rear of the house to park. Now they drive around her van into my front yard and are making ruts. I solved that problem by putting three 5′ lengths of 4″ steel pipe along their drive way. Half the pipe is in the ground and half above. Note: that the driveway is partially on my property. I have installed a hunting scout cam on the flag pole in my back yard to take pics of these idiots. The landlord is a really good guy, in his 60’s and retired he has told them twice about driving in my yard. People really need to mind their own business and respect other peoples property.

    5. My neighbor is a nasty,arrogant woman that has had it in for me ever since I complained about her daycare client using my front yard as a parking space. We moved to this hellhole town about two and a half years ago because my husband got a job in this area. At first the neighbor across the street was friendly and pleasant. Boy,did that change! You see, she runs a daycare business out of her home and every morning and evening people are stopping by to drop off/pick up their kids. I had no problem with anybody parking in front of my house as long as they didn’t block the driveway. However,she had one client that thought my front yard was her personal parking space! Everyday she would drive up over the curb and park her car on my sidewalk,several times actually on the grass in my front yard. One day I had finally had enough and I went across the street to speak to my neighbor, the daycare owner,about her client. Even though she was sitting right in her living room where I could see her,she refused to come to the door and sent her relative/employee out instead that lied to my face and told me she “wasn’t there.” I told her that I would appreciate it if they would tell the client to stop or I would call the cops,however I didn’t want it to get that far. The client did stop,however my neighbor has been hateful,rude and nasty to me ever since. Her sons glare at my husband or me everytime they see us and she chidishly rolls her eyes at me or whispers to whomever she is with if I come out of my house or walk by. It’s so ridiculous! The only person in her house that doesn’t act like a jerk toward us is her husband that usually says hello and seems to be a decent guy. Can you believe all of this started because I didn’t want some woman using my front yard as a parking space? I guess if I had said,”sure,come on and abuse my property all you want” there would have been no problem. People are just bizarre.

    6. November 23rd, 2009 at 4:29 pm    Claudia Flores Says:

      I’m worried about a friend who has been complaining about her neighbor for a couple of months now. Everytime I speak with her, she always tells something different about the neighbor. I want to help her and let her know what she can do to have her be at peace and feel secure at her own home. There is no verbal abuse or any physical violence between them. Only confrontation. My friend did tell the female neighbor of how she felt and if she had any conflicts against her that she should know about and that can be solved by communicating their differenced. Neighbor denies her obviouse actions. Where can and to whom can she talk to for help. please respond. She has a 15 year old daughter and the situation is getting a little complicated. Not only that it is a female neigbor but now theirs a male. its getting a little scary because he stands outside and just watches her place. And runs in when my friend comes out of her house. Thank you. Claudia

    7. November 23rd, 2009 at 3:49 am    Hanson Says:

      Phone 911 report him immediately maybe he’s in the country illegally,some people live in some countries underground the authorities should straightened him out.make your case if it does not work still talk to your landlord or call immigration yourself & denounce him at once.do not let others step over you,stand up,& if he ever gets physical with you he’ll be deported should he hit you as criminals are immediately kick out of any problem or put in jail.good luck & assert yourself.don’t just take it & live in fear grow some character but first phone the cops & explain correctly your problem they will help you,& will warn the trouble maker,if he persist well he’ll have the book thrown at him.again good luck.

    8. November 3rd, 2009 at 5:09 pm    Jolene Says:

      I feel sorry for everyone with a bad neighbor. Mine howver, are worse, they clearly break covenant rules that benefit them, and when they are called on it, they blame everyone else and do not accept responsibility. They physically and verbally assault other particular neighbors, and act completely sweet and kind to others. I think they are bipolar or insane. These people can not be trusted, as they use everyone they come in contact with for their own personal gain. Creepy creepy nasty people. They are convinced they are the alpha dog hip peole who everyone wants to know. YUCK…don’t look now because we are all laughing at your shallow debt ridden lives. Good luck keeping up or lifestyle in this economy.

    9. September 23rd, 2009 at 11:00 am    From Canada Says:

      I have a crazy neighbour with whom I require some assistance. He from the very get-go has been an in-your-face kinda guy, telling you how to plan your yard, digging up my fence post in the middle of the night because he didn’t like the type I used, building a fence right beside our fence, spying into our windows, watching the neighbourhood kids out his windows ALL THE TIME, rumaging around in our yard late at night (we had to lock our gate), going through our home while it was being built (he had access to a builders key cause he built with the same company), calling the city on us for bylaw issues (which turned out false), calling my daughter a crazy bitch and last but not least, his son runs around telling people he wants to die or kill himself and dicusses very sexual fantasies that he has regarding himself and other girls – the son is 10. What do you do with this?

    10. Next door neighbors throw used condoms in our backyard. Light illegal fireworks all year, steal from one another then scream about it, use illegal drugs, siphon gas from cars on street, hang clothes from city power line to property, discard prescription drugs on the street, use black/dirty gutter water to water plants and our planter along the edge of property, allow visitors to sleep in cars or on trampoline in backyard, throw cigarette butts in our planters, scream about shooting police officers in a murder suicide or killing white people or president then claim they are rapping. House is in major disrepair and vermin infested. Several of them are on parole. This has become a city wide destination for vagrants, drunks, and people looking to score drugs. We also suspect prostitution has been taking place. Costa Mesa police dept. says they are aware of drug sales but they don’t sell enough for them to enforce. They also shot our house and cars with a paintball gun. Ran a car repair business from home, Hit our mail box while drunk and parking car. Rent out garage as rental unit. Costa Mesa police and Costa Mesa Code Enforcement seem uninterested in solving these problems. One of the CMCE supervisors told me “we can’t all live in a garden state”. That might be true but if they did their jobs it sure would make for a nicer community. Any suggestions?

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