Posted on: November 25, 2008 Posted by: Nicole Harding Comments: 0

Is there anything harder to fear than fear itself? Some would say that fear is the ultimate obstacle in life, but it’s possible to get rid of fear, or at least limit the impact it has on your life.

Sometimes conquering fear takes a lifetime, and some people never learn to face their fear. Fear can strike hard and fast, which causes people to avoid dealing with any situation, event, or object that might cause them fear. Everybody has different fears, and they deal with them in a variety of ways. The time is now to conquer your fear before it takes a hold of you!

Fear happens when you feel like you are threatened, or that you are in some sort of danger. This often comes from bad memories, upsetting stories, painful incidents, or uncomfortable social settings. Fear can be crippling at times, causing depression, anxiety, panic, and even violent behaviour. Experiencing fear can make getting rid of it seem tough because all of fear’s symptoms can rattle your senses.

Do what you can to keep your emotions in check and the fear passes. You will need to change your current state of mind, but it’s certainly possible. This will take practice, but you can master your fears—don’t let them get in the way of living your life. Find out how with this article!

1. Question your fear

Some people will tell you that fear is forever, but they are dead wrong. It’s only forever if you let this happen. Once you start to question the basis of your fear, you will eventually realize that your fears don’t have power over you.

What do you fear? And why do you fear these things? List all your reasons for where your fears originate. Many of these are related to fears of death, failure, pain, or humiliation, so don’t be surprised if some of your answers fall within these categories.

Are you exaggerating your fear? Does it really have a hold over you? Sure, things might scare you, but it’s time to go deeper. Find the physical, emotional, and mental triggers for your fear. Perhaps you think that humiliation will give you a poor image, or that failure will show that your goals are still a ways off. Maybe you are afraid of pain, and the consequences of pain. A fear of death is common, and fairly self-explanatory.

2. Combat your fears

Once you have identified your fears, you are in a much better place to get rid of them. Finding and fighting the root cause of fear isn’t so hard once you know where that fear comes from.

Far too often people make fear more complicated than it really is because they only look at the possible negative impacts. There is always a positive in any situation—remember that! Try and find the silver lining wherever you can. It’s truly refreshing.

Once you know what to do, you will realize that there isn’t a real reason for you to feel that fear. In fact, you can even use that fear to motivate you. Use the fears you wrote down previously to help you work on answers for limiting their effect or getting rid of them. You will likely still be captivated by them, but not as much as you previously were. You won’t drive your fears away overnight, which is why you will have to work hard to find remedies for them. Over time, this will strengthen your character!

3. Exercise your humility

If you answered incorrectly (or untruthfully) to the causes of your fears, you might need to restart the process because the fear likely won’t go away.

There is nothing wrong with being humble and showing your humility. Your friends and family should be willing to help you with this, so use them as a resource! Open up to them about who you are as a person, and what your fears are. This might be hard to do, but you shouldn’t be afraid to try. They likely have lots of great suggestions that you can follow. When you feel fearful or humiliated, you can go to your friends and family as a support system.

4. Failure and rejection

Don’t forget about your person goals you are trying to reach. Every time you fail, you are ready for a new opportunity. FAIL means First Attempt in Learning. END is not the end. END stands for Effort Never Dies. Don’t be discouraged by getting NO for an answer. NO means Next Opportunity.

Failures provide you with guidance going forward, on what you should or should not do. It also provides perspective on new angles for you to follow to reach your goals. Failure means eventual success, so there’s no need to be afraid of it.

5. Dealing with pain

Pain is difficult to deal with, but consider the amount of self-respect that you have. You can overcome pain by focusing on your pride, your dignity, or your beliefs.

Pain can make you a stronger person. Don’t think of it as a weakness. Even the most famous and wealthy people in the world experience pain. Use your pain as a battle scar, not a battle wound! Wear it with pride.

6. Coping with death

Unfortunately, we are all going to die eventually. This is one of the strongest roots of fear, and most fears have their basis in death, or lead to death eventually.

You can’t control the inevitable march of time, but you can control your own life. Think of each day as a new opportunity to make your mark on the world. Create your legacy, and be proud of what you do. There is beauty in everything, even in the seemingly lowest of jobs. Find that beauty, and live each day to the fullest! YOLO, as the kids say these days. Don’t let some proverbial clock control your actions. That’s harmful and unnecessary!

7. Get accustomed to your fears

Grow accustomed to your fears slowly by starting to accept them on a day-by-day basis. Don’t jump straight into the deep end, of course—it’s best to take a gradual approach. Inch your way towards your fears, and face them head on.

Are you afraid of heights? Stand on a chair and look down. It’s a small distance, but Rome wasn’t built in a day! Eventually you can work your way up to the first floor of a building, and then work your way higher from there. Maybe you won’t be a bungee jumping expert at the end of the process, but you can at least stop yourself from feeling so paralyzed by your fear.

Grow accustomed to your fears—they are perfectly normal reactions, and everyone in the world has them. Once you understand them, you are in a much better place to get rid of them. Adopt a productive stance to your fears, and they won’t have the same impact on your life!

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